There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. (Galatians 3:28)
These terms that are used in various churches, but may not be familiar with the “unsaved.”
I’m not actually sure if I speak much Christianese, because I’ve gone to church on-and-off my whole life. (Apparently I’m a cradle Presbyterian—who knew?) I do use verbs such as “fellowship,” “bless,” and “witness,” but not liberally. And I try to avoid using words and phrases that might feel smug or self-righteous.
I don’t “love on” anyone. My friends are just that—friends—and not pre-Christians. To me “love on” feels insincere at best, (and at worst, it feels like what a cult might do to a newcomer.) If I love someone (platonically or otherwise), then of course I’m going to treat them kindly. And I do my best to find something to love about everyone, so I don’t need a clever phrase to describe treating someone with respect. (I want to make it clear that it’s the attitude I dislike, not the phrases themselves. If you honestly love on people, good on you!)
No matter how blessed I feel (and I feel very blessed!), I don’t say I’m “blessed with good health,” because I have friends who are struggling with cancer. One friend, who was very active in my church, died of cancer while she still had a school-aged son. It still hurts after three years.
So, why do I bring this up here? (I could simply stop using the phrases.) But there are people who use them so liberally that I feel uncomfortable. That’s not bad in itself, but I think they want people to know what good Christians they are, and I feel like it goes hand-in-hand with the insider/outsider mentality. These words can be shorthand for “I’m saved and you’re not” (Wink, wink), and I can’t handle that. I see it a lot in social media. Sometimes it feels like a way of separating people, especially if I’m pressured to “like and share” if I love Jesus. (What if I don’t? Oh, dear!)
Some of my non Christian friends say that, when they hear Christian-talk, they just move on. This applies to public forums as well as real life. The last thing I want to do is to push people away from God. So I’ll leave the Christian talk for my “koinonia.” (My church community.)
Anything that makes me feel like an insider and makes someone else feel like an outsider is a lousy witness.